How many times have you heard someone say “but it is my fault” when discussing a breakup? Guess what, it is not. Your partner did not choose to come to you and tell you that he is not feeling up to having sex. He did not choose to be in a relationship where he feels that bedroom activity is a requirement. If you take responsibility for avoiding depression there are some reasonable expectations that you can have.
First: Before saying “it is your fault” argumentative partners will try to use every opportunity to repair the relationship. One of their favorite tricks is blaming you for their partner’s erectile dysfunction. “You picked the wrong guy to fall in love with,” he says, attempting to justify his choice of partner. Again, this blaming doesn’t stop him from feeling rejected but it does allow him to feel a bit of cover. If you are more of a verbal type of lover, you can subtly compliment your other without saying a word. Things like, “I love the way this kiss feels,” or “I love how you kiss me” increases intimacy and passion and will automatically turn anybody on.
Second: If you are going to try to repair the relationship, one of the first things you should do is take responsibility for Lauren and the depth of your relationship. Do not say, “We will put a pillow over that,” or “He knows what should be done.” Just simply tells your partner that you need time and without judgment. Doing this will immediately improve the intimacy and in doing so will preserve your friendship. later on, you will be able to reach further and you will learn that the best thing you can do for someone is to give without expecting anything in return.
Third: You need to be honest with your partner and not lie. Lying is a poor way to try to cover up bad behavior. If it is your secret I can tell you that lying is not going to solve anything. Allowing the other person to feel comfortable around you is the way to encourage attraction and romance.
Being honest is the best way to prevent cheating as well as to build a strong relationship. It also shows your partner that you will not be their play toy for sex.
So now that you know these truths it is time to apply them. There isn’t going to be sex every day because that ultimately will lead to relationships overlooking this fact. But every time you are around your partner, ensure you are setting the right mood. Guys don’t just put a bunch of flowers in a vase and call it intimacy.
Remember, a great sexual relationship is based on full communication and connection. It also involves spending time together. If you are putting off having sex with your partner they are not going to respond favorably to this. Cheating often occurs because people feel that they are not loved or will not get sex and so begin seeking it elsewhere. If you are in a relationship that is not working, then let your partner know.